A Labor of Love

You won’t get rich coaching at Collegiate.
Not dollars and cents rich, anyway.
 
Sure, you receive a nice stipend, but if you put in the time both in the arena and in the planning and reflection, your hourly rate might buy you a cup of coffee. Emphasis on the “might.”
 
There’s swag involved, too, and it’s all great stuff, but if you wear the t-shirt, hoodie, and cap long enough, you’ll eventually wear them out. That, I promise.
 
What never gets old, though, are the experiences, and what you’ll never wear out are the connections, life lessons, and memories of time well spent together. That, I promise as well.
 
Sound cliché. Of course, it does, but it’s cliché for a reason. It’s a thousand percent true.
 
For years, Collegiate’s athletic program has prospered because of career coaches who consider preparing young women and men for competition as well as life a calling rather than an afternoon job.
 
It’s prospered also because of adjunct coaches, many of whom are Collegiate graduates, who make time in their busy schedules to pay forward the gifts that they received back in the day on the fields, courts, track, and trails at their alma mater.
 
“We at Collegiate cherish the opportunity to have our current students positively impacted by former Collegiate athletes who are very knowledgeable in the sports they coach and continue to care about the school,” said athletic director Andrew Stanley, 
“Their presence teaches an incredible lesson about what it means to be part of something bigger than themselves. I’m very grateful that dedicated, committed alums can reinforce the enduring core principles – sportsmanship, competitive spirit, loyalty, and fair play – that have been trademarks of our program for generations.”
 
What follows is a compendium of thoughts, insights, and reflections of seven graduates (among many over the years) who were so inspired by their Collegiate athletic experiences that they found ways to balance family and outside professional responsibilities to serve their alma mater as adjunct coaches.
 
Carter Reifsnider Toohers ’12, first-year girls varsity lacrosse coach and program leader after serving as an assistant at Douglas Freeman, the three-time VHSL Class 5 state champion. She also works full time as the manager of strategic analytics for McKesson Medical-Surgical. She and her husband Patrick have one young son.
 
A coach’s impact goes beyond sports. Annie Richards was my head lacrosse coach at Collegiate. She was great and always so positive. Karen Doxey, my field hockey coach, is a legend. She had a massive impact on my life. My time at Collegiate was always a positive experience. I hope to be a positive influence on the lives (of the athletes I coach) once they leave Collegiate.
 
This is my first time as a head coach. Before we started, I was anxious, but it was a good anxious. Collegiate girls lacrosse has been good for a long time. There’s a little bit of pressure there, but just getting to know the kids for open gym made things easy for me. They’re super easy to work with and so receptive to feedback. It's such an honor to be back at Collegiate.
 
Rob Ukrop ’88, boys and girls varsity soccer coach and program leader. He also assisted Charlie Blair with boys soccer and coached club soccer for years. He serves as CEO of the Richmond Kickers and involves himself in numerous community outreach endeavors. He and his wife Shannon have two children.
 
I just love kids. I had great teachers and role models at Collegiate like Charlie Blair and Charlie McFall who invested in me as a human being and encouraged me. I feel blessed to have the opportunity to repay some of the great lessons I learned and pass them on to the next generation. Coaching in the afternoons in the fall and spring are things I love to do. It reminds me to be kid-like and be young and be happy. I see so much hope in these young people Hopefully, I can help keep them on a great path, and  they make good decisions and great things happen.
 
Jake McDonald ’07, volunteer varsity lacrosse coach who coached both football and lacrosse while serving as associate director of summer programs at Collegiate. He is a co-founder of The Peavey Project and a certified mindfulness facilitator. He and his wife Molly have two young sons.
 
The drive to coach comes from my love for sports as well as the appreciation for the experiences I had when I was young. My family moved eight times when we were growing up. Sports was how I made friends, connected with people, and, as I got older, made sense of the world.  Coaching is really fulfilling. Just to be around sports gives me a lot of energy and joy. To serve others in a meaningful way is also really special. The quality of the relationships I had with Coach (Charlie) McFall, Coach (Trip) Featherston, and the other coaches I admired and looked up to when I was young has stood the test of time.
        
Stephen Spraker ’92, assistant coach of Cub green football who served as a JV football assistant for five years after he graduated from Hampden-Sydney. He’s a financial advisor and vice-president of investments for Raymond James. He and his wife Kelly have two sons.
 
I was inspired to coach by the people that I was around whether they were teammates or coaches or the support staff around athletics. It was always a place where I felt comfortable and could be who I wanted to be. I had success there, and I also had fun. Coaches like Bubba Lawson, Joel Nuckols, and Charlie McFall in football and Don Pate and Ted Penick in wrestling, and Skip Johns in the weight room made me want to compete.
 
(I enjoy coaching) because it’s the chance to make a difference. I grew up around teachers like my mom (Paula) and coaches. I love it. I firmly believe that the most important thing we’re doing right now is teaching kids that we expect more of them and pushing them harder than they have been over the past several years because of Covid (restrictions). We’re able to push them more and expect more out of them, and we’re starting to see results. That’s really great.
 
Cooper Moelchert ’15, assistant boys Cub green soccer coach the past three year. He’s a data analyst at Strange Ventures.
 
At the Cub level, the kids are really raw to the game and haven’t had a lot of eye-opening soccer moments. Being able to facilitate some of those moments and prevent kids from getting stuck is a big thing for me. I don’t like to see a kid beating himself up if he can’t figure out how to push forward.  (I enjoy) watching them fight through failure to eventual success or to eventual mental stability in the sense that they know the next steps they need to take to achieve their goals. I find a lot of personal value in illuminating that process. That’s something I strive for when I coach. The look on kids’ faces in those moments tells you much more than words can.
 
Chrissy Thexton Chappell ’11, assistant varsity volleyball coach this past fall and JV lacrosse coach this spring. She’s coached both sports at several levels since graduating from Harvard in 2015. She’s an associate commercial real estate broker at Cushman & Wakefield|Thalhimer. She and her husband Daryl were married in November.
 
Collegiate is one of the most influential places that helped me become who I am. My time on the volleyball court, around the track, and on the lacrosse field had just as much impact as my time in the classroom. I played lacrosse in college thanks to the lacrosse program at Collegiate and the support from Annie Richards, who was my coach at the time and got me to Harvard and put me on a trajectory to where I am today.
 
I just love watching these girls enjoy the same sports that I did and watching these programs building them up both as young ladies and as athletes. I’m fortunate to have a job that’s not a strict 9-to-5 job. I can set my own hours to some extent, and I made it very clear up front when I took this job a year ago that I would coach at Collegiate. I make the time to coach because it’s worth it. Everyone I know who’s had that opportunity to come back as a teacher or a coach has jumped on it. You don’t ever really leave Collegiate.
 
Matthew Richardson ’07, head varsity cross country coach, track distance coach, and program leader for both cross country and track. Among several outside endeavors, he serves as director of Camp River’s Bend. He and his wife Anna have two young children.
 
My interest in coaching came first and foremost from my love and passion for distance running that was instilled in me by my coaches. Collegiate is a place that does things the right way. It’s not just about winning or the score. It’s about the growth of our student athletes. The emphasis on sportsmanship and competitive spirit that Coach (Petey) Jacobs instilled in all of the people that coached me is what brings me back every day.
 
(My experiences as an athlete at Collegiate) changed the course of my life. I like to think that in some small way, I can give back. I tell the (distance) kids all the time that I enjoy being out there and watching them grow. It’s hard getting out there when you’re not on campus and have other things going on, but it’s worth it. It’s a labor of love.
 
When I stepped away from teaching (after nine years at Collegiate), I was looking for something that allowed me to continue coaching. If there were 12 more hours in the day, I’d still be teaching middle school history. When life throws a lot of balls your way, you figure how to juggle them. One that I always want to keep in the air is coaching. Having that opportunity is a blessing.
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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